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Yesterday the post was more of a formal book review than a blog post.  After considerable thought and rereading of the end of the book the essence has become clear.  It is really about “Love”, love of self and appreciation of who we are,  and love of others by transmitting that inner love to all people we touch.  I experienced this message in the 70’s through the person of Leo Buscaglia and several of his books and lectures.  Anita Moorjani says she made herself sick physically and sick at heart by trying to be something other than who and what she is at her most basic soul and mind level. Buscaglia tells us to be the best “us” we can be.  I remember him telling the audience in his inimitable, passionate style, “if you’re a banana, be the very best banana you can be, don’t try to be a pear or an orange, you’ll always be second rate!”  “The easiest thing to be in the world is you. The most difficult thing to be is what other people want you to be. Don’t let them put you in that position.” ― Leo Buscaglia The message comes through loud and clear from both of these authors that being yourself and letting that genuine love and appreciation of self flow through to others in the form of true acceptance of their individuality and contribution to the oneness of the universe.  Fear of not being good enough or what the future may bring comes from not being genuinely ourselves and embracing the totality of the universe and all it contains.  Our ability to forgive ourselves as we grow and learn allows us to forgive others and allow them their own time to learn and grow.  As a new life comes into the world it has it’s own spirit and mind, this little person is an individual yet a part of the whole and has a contribution to make.  The tremendous potential in that tiny person is beyond the comprehension of our little human minds.  It is up to each of us to nurture that individuality with love, the same love we must have for ourselves and our role in the tapestry of life.  The biography of Steve Jobs starts with his life through high school and his twenties searching for his authentic self and all the self inflicted pain he endured to reach some knowledge of who he was.  I can remember my parents trying to “create” who I was or should be and although they had the best intentions, the result was my leaving to become the “real” me.  We lost many years of our relationship because I refused to accept the rejection of my chosen life.  Fortunately before we ran out of time they came to the realization that my chosen path was the right one for me, not for them but for me. We must realize that everyone has their own way to travel, some more similar to ours than others but all equally valuable and through sharing our love everyone can feel safe, accepted and free from fear.